The "controlled crying" debate
My eight-month-old-baby cries two or three times a night and I’m exhausted. I’m desperate to get some sleep – is it worth trying some “controlled crying” when I just leave her to cry, or could this damage my baby?
My eight-month-old-baby cries two or three times a night and I’m exhausted. I’m desperate to get some sleep – is it worth trying some “controlled crying” when I just leave her to cry, or could this damage my baby?
Struggling with your baby's sleep pattern since the clocks went back?
The recent change in
the clocks has probably had an impact, for many parents, on how to keep their
baby's sleep schedule and routine consistent. If your baby is naturally an
"early riser", the chances are that the clocks going back has meant
that your baby's wake up time may have changed from 5:30am to 4:30am!! As a
working mum, who might have to get up and manage the demands of motherhood with
those of being professionally competent and productive at work, starting your
day at 4:30am will be a challenge; starting your day at 4:30am after a night of
broken sleep or playing musical beds with your toddler, will probably be even
harder.
Here are some ideas of how you might make that
transition a little easier when the clocks go back:
I very much valued an opportunity to work with The Growth Shed to help me think about a vision and a purpose for My Baby Sleep Coach.
Last week, I worked with Paul
Slater from The Growth Shed; I gained some valuable ideas about a vision and a
purpose for my new business, My Baby Sleep Coach. It was a real eye opener and
a great exercise to motivate me and provide me with the right direction for
growing my business.
This is how I managed to describe the purpose of my
business;
"My Baby Sleep Coach aims to work in partnership
with clients to enable them to identify achievable and realistic solutions to
their babies' sleep difficulties so that they can feel fully confident to make
effective changes, and because parent and baby relationships should not be damaged
by the stress and anguish caused by sleep disturbance."
Using Paul's Ready? Plan. Grow! approach we worked on
a vision, purpose, pitch, customer journey, products and services, pricing, and
channels to market. From here I managed to set up a Facebook page and a website
that encompassed all the right ingredients to get started. I feel very excited
about moving forward.
None of us actually sleep solidly throughout the night as we all have a natural sleep cycle and sleep rhythm that takes us through lighter and deeper phases of sleep. Are we setting ourselves up to fail if we expect our babies to sleep through the night?
Just like adults, babies go through different stages and phases of sleep which fit together in several cycles throughout the night, only little ones' sleep cycles are shorter than those of us grown ups and they are likely to enter very light states of sleep every couple of hours. A baby who has not learnt how to settle itself back to sleep independently is likely to wake up several times per night (each time he or she enters a light phase of sleep). Arguably, the best gift we can give to our troublesome sleepers is the opportunity to learn how to settle back to sleep without being nursed, cuddled, rocked or given a milk feed; in fact teaching your child how to fall asleep independently would be like giving them a gift for life. In theory, this may sound straight forward but parents may need support in finding the right solutions to their baby's sleeping difficulties and each baby and each situation is unique with it's own challenges and barriers to affecting change. Time spent with a baby sleep coach may be valuable for helping parents to achieve a better quality and more restful night's sleep all round, but it would be unrealistic to expect a completely undisturbed night, especially if baby is still very young and still needing milk feeds during the night.